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Coaching vs mentoring phrases in English
Coaching asks questions so you find your own answer. Mentoring shares direct advice. Phrases for both, and how to switch.
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| Coaching | Mentoring |
|---|---|
| What do you think is holding this back? (coaching) | When I was in your position, I did X. (mentoring) |
| What options have you considered? (coaching) | Here's what worked for me. (mentoring) |
| How would you approach this differently next time? (coaching) | I'd recommend doing it this way. (mentoring) |
Phrases for every stage
Coaching questions
- What's your gut telling you?
- What would success look like here?
- What's stopping you from trying that?
Mentoring advice
- Based on my experience, I'd suggest...
- One thing that helped me was...
- A mistake I made early on was...
Switching between the two
- Do you want my honest take, or do you want to think it through first?
- Can I share an idea, or would you rather work through this yourself?
Giving someone space to think
- Take a moment, there's no rush.
- What's your first instinct?
- I'll let you sit with that.
Closing a session
- What's one thing you'll try this week?
- Let's check in on this next time.
- What support do you need from me?
Watch out if you speak Spanish
- English speakers often ask permission before giving mentoring-style advice (can I share an idea, or...), since jumping straight to advice can feel like you're not listening.
- What do you think? is a coaching question in English business culture, not a sign the speaker doesn't have an opinion.
- Consejo in Spanish usually maps to advice, but in a coaching conversation a question often does more than direct advice.
- Closing with a concrete next step (what's one thing you'll try this week?) is standard in both coaching and mentoring conversations.
Practice
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Questions
- What's the real difference between coaching and mentoring?
- Coaching asks questions so you find your own answer. Mentoring shares direct advice from someone else's experience. Good managers switch between the two depending on what the person needs.
- How do I know which one to use?
- Ask first: do you want my honest take, or do you want to think it through first? It's a simple way to check which mode the conversation needs.
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